🐧 EVERYDAY LIFE⚡ 15 SEC
Repeat their words back, and their real feelings come out 🦜
Say It Back
It seems it is good to say the other person's words back when you listen.
For Example
If someone says, "I'm tired," you say, "You're tired."
⚡ TRY IT
Be a kind parrot
"Today was so long. I am tired."
"I looked at my phone all night. I feel worried."
"I wanted to try the new class, but I got scared."
"…Yes. Actually, I really want to try again! 🔥"
🦜 …
🦜 Hmm? That is not the feeling.
🦜 "You are tired."
🦜 "You feel worried."
🦜 "You got scared."
🦜 "You want to try again!"
Tap the feeling word. The parrot will say it back.
✨ Nice echo! Your friend keeps talking.
🤔 That is not a feeling word. Try another one.
💎 3 echoes, and the real feeling came out!
Feel Safe
When their feelings are heard, people feel safe and talk more.
Real Feelings
Then, after a while, their real feelings come out.
📚 I learned this from the Japanese blog "Panda no Ondo".
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